So few can actually see the pain in another person and admit they have done wrong and hurt them. That pain within the hurt person will never find its justice and recourse. It is then on the hurt person to heal without the acknowledgement and respect of that person who hurt them to admit they have done wrong.
It hurts me to see so many people in pain without finding the closure they need. It is a hurdle too many have to overcome because more and more abusers, manipulators, and narcissists maintain they have done no wrong. These people are emotional oppressors.
The truth is that they do not care for the person they hurt. What is even sicker is that a lot of these abusers, manipulators, and narcissists enjoy hurting that person and derive some form of sick pleasure from it. There is research to show that these people devoid of compassion are actively hurting people because they do enjoy it.
Don’t let the abusers, manipulators, and narcissist stop you from apologizing or from seeking an apology. Do the exact opposite of them. They gain more traction the more that join their club devoid of humanity. They want to hurt people so that they lose that bit of brave love and vulnerability that they lack. They want that hurt that they purposefully inflicted to imprison you just as they are imprisoned. Misery loves company.
Too few own their actions and take responsibility for what they do. No one is perfect. We are human who make mistakes and sometimes we all hurt people intentionally and unintentionally. Does anyone ever regret an apology? It’s not something to regret because it is acknowledging the pain we caused and making amends for that pain. Rather, wouldn’t we regret denying someone that our actions hurt them, even if we do not see eye to eye with them or agree with it at all. It is not about us, the hurt is about them and in order to free them from that pain that they are attributing to us, they need us to admit it and I will. It does not change who we are or make us a weak person for admitting a wrong done to another person. You are showing your value their spirit, their love, their person when we admit our wrongs.
One thing that does sadden me is when the manipulators realize that a person will apologize, and before you know it, all you are doing is apologizing. That is not healthy. There are people who will then try to twist every situation so that you are always in the wrong and they are hurting, but you are actually hurting and denied your emotions and closure. Do not regret the apologies given to these people, just walk away because they are the ones that find joy in your pain. If you’re truly respecting boundaries and actively showing love and kindness, these are not the people you want in your life.
It is brave to look someone in the eye, put the ego aside, and say, “I’m sorry.” It is an act of love. It is an act of humanity. It is an act of compassion and empathy. It is an act of respect. It is an act of vulnerability. This is why so few can admit they’re wrong.
Look for those brave people. They are few and far between. Be that brave person if another does not offer you an apology in return.
For the people who cannot admit they’re wrong, remove them from your life and know they are not safe. They don’t deserve your time, energy, and love. They prove that when they don’t see your pain.
Find those who respect your emotions and your pain. Let go of those who deny your emotions, pain, and refuse accountability. Empower yourself and the people in your life, show them you do care, listen to their pain, and help them on the path to healing.